Sneak PEEK at Chapter One of Piece of the Glitter:
When I was 23 years old I was working as a telemarketer in Chicago, Illinois. I had my first official apartment in Hide Park, the same neighborhood Mr. Obama owned a home. i had just got laid off from my telemarketing job, and had 3 weeks to figure out how i was going to come up with my rent... i had no savings. so i went on twitter and i reached out to a girl who eventually became my stripper mentor. That's when i realized how to become a desired woman.
When I first started dancing, my friend told me I would learn to become a woman. I laughed at the idea and rolled my eyes. Little did I know, three years later her words would serve as a forewarning. Ever since I became a sex worker (with a concentration in stripping), I have tapped deeper into my womanhood.
I DIDN'T GET A FUCKING BOOK I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT THE FUCK SEX WORK WAS, if it wasn't for my female mentor I would have gotten kidnapped again, raped or killed. Shit maybe all of the above. So i humbled my fucking self bit my fucking tongue and we learned to navigate this crazy ass life together.
A common question many women have is how to GET into stripping. What you see in movies is only half the drama and craziness. There are things you would only know......once you lace up those 6 inch heels. WARNING: If you are a feminist, product free woman, etc either let those notions go. Dancing is all about pleasing.
Confidence/Body Positivist - To get into stripping , you have to be honest with yourself and your body. Take a long look in the mirror. If you don't accept your flaws and embrace the huge boobs you inherited from your dad's mom, then you ARENT ready to have people pay you for it. Point blank period. People are animalistic. They can smell fear from a mile away.
You should get comfortable with being naked. Walk around your house naked to get a feel for it. find a gym THAT WORKS FOR YOU the cheapest, closest,and cleanest would be your best bet. now listen, if you dont like the gym you have 2 options:
⦁ GET A GYM BUDDY
⦁ TAKE ZUMBA/POLE CLASSES
if you do not want to go to the gym, if you do not want to get a gym buddy and if do not want to take pole classes go ahead and stop reading this book go live your sloppy ass lazy ass sad ass life. These are not just tools to become a better stripper (which is type of sex work) but also tools to bag a better nigga.
There is a difference between being confident in yourself and looking a hot ass mess. im not telling anyone to engage in bilemia, I am not telling anyone to engage in anorexia, and I am definitely not recommending anyone to get ass shots or injections cause thats a fucking trap. whether your a female who identify as WHITE or BROWN (middle eastern, black american, afro latino, native american, aboriginal, African) all of these are tools that white supremacy uses to put you the FUCK down! These next few gems I am dropping on you hoes I have learned from various female strippers, drag queen moms and male clientele. this is to help you make money, WHETHER YOU IDENTIFY AS A SEX WORKER OR NOT. Unless you own your own strip-club, unless you like paying for niggas, and unless you come from a high social economic background you have to look the part to get the coins sis. Let me break it down to you if you still dont understand what the hell I am saying:
Beauty/Makeup- Makeup will make or break you when it comes to being judged. Show up to a potential club with a FULL FACE. DO YOUR RESEARCH ON YOUR SKIN TYPE. Cause I am tired of seeing you bitches with the white face on knowing DAMNNNN well that is not your tone. Go to a makeup store like Sephora/Ulta (if your broke). Buy a foundation. They will give you a full face for free. Investing money in a good foundation will benefit you in the long run. Have a makeup artist write down each product used. Price check, to find it cheaper with different brands. in the next chapter ill go more in depth about this.
HYGIENE- Firts things first GET YOUR ASS TESTED. i dont care if your with someone years days weeks or months these niggas out here dirty so google search the nearest free clinic. Getting tested is not just abaout being precieved as "clean" its important because sex work is a slippery slope.
shave or wax EVERYTHING. Even the hair between your ass crack. Remember you are going to be BUTT ass naked. So shave your legs, under arm hair, mustache, chin hair, knuckle hair, feet hair, and pussy hair. Now if you have hair on your arms, keep it. Don't shave or wax arm hair. Believe it or not, some men don't care. Hair holds odor. Odor is DEATH at the club. You will be sweating most of the time. Look at it this way would you want some stanky ass, musty ass bitch in front out you? NO! Neither does your male clientele.
Get use to forking over money for fingernails and feet every 2 weeks. Dance-shoes are normally open toe, so your feet ALWAYS have to be done. Once I had a customer NOT want to get a dance from me. 2 years ago when i was working a Vanity Grand i thought i would be cheap and not get my feet done. one thing about sex work is you cant cut corners when you first start, i walked up to this customer and asked him for a dance, he was drunk with his friends and looked down at my toes. this man preceded to embarrass me in front of his friends about how my toes were not done. His bitch ass gave a dollar and told me to get my feet done. I walked away feeling like shit and angry. But guess what the fuck I did went and got my nails and feet done. Never again was i going to give a man the ammunition to clown me.
Hair- OK this is also very important. Now there are wigs, lacefronts, clip-in a etc that you can choose from. Try to make your hair look REAL as possible. Men hate fake hair as it is. Just don't make it look obvious. Wear colors that look natural. Now if you want to get funky with your weave, it does depend on your skin color. For darker toned Black women, I would recommend light browns and dark purples. Stay the hell away from BRIGHT COLORED weave. For lighter skinned Black women I would recommend dark reds, black hair, and blondes. For brown skinned Black women, pretty much any color works except red or yellow. Be versatile but not messy with it. To be honest you can wear what ever hair you want just make sure you beat that face sis.
Now that you have the basics, now comes the interview process. Go to the club as a customer first. Make sure you look a MILLION bucks. No sweatpants and a tshirt. A nightclub outfit is better. Make sure it shows off your curves and all. Look at what the dancers wear, check the clientele, and tip EVERYONE. This will matter later. Before you leave ask the manager if they are hiring. NEVER ask other dancers, the DJ, or the bartenders. The managers at most clubs like their ego stroked. Male or female. They will give you an audition, and BAM either you are welcome into the exclusive world of dancing, or you just go back to being a customer.